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INTRODUCTION

Have you ever heard the story about the farmer who told his wife one morning that he was going to plough the southern side of his farm ?He got off to an early start so he could oil the tractor . He needed more oil, so he went to the shop to get it. On the way to the shop, he noticed his cows weren’t fed . So he proceeded to the cattle feed , where he found some sacks of feed. The sacks reminded him that his potatoes were sprouting. When he started for the potato pit , he passed the woodpile and remembered that his daughter wanted wood in the house. As he picked up a few sticks , an ailing goat passed by. He dropped the wood and reached for the goat. When evening arrived , the frustrated farmer had not even gotten to the tractor, let alone the field!

How many times have you found yourself in a similar situation? You intended to do something you knew was important, but were distracted and never accomplished what you set out to do.

Or perhaps you can think of something that you have always wanted to do but can never find time for.

By the same question, are you aware of something that you do often that is a waste of time ?

If you are a normal person, you answered “Yes” to both questions and thought of something specific in each case. Isn’t it strange that we can want to do one thing for a long time and never get to it, and yet at the same time we freely admit that we are wasting time on other activities ?

THAT IS WHY WE NEED TO LEARN TO MANAGE OURSELVES.

AN ALTERNATIVE TO ANGER

One morning in Perth, Australia, Fionn Mulholland discovered his car was missing. That’s when he realized he had mistakenly parked in a restricted zone and his car had been towed away. After considering the situation and the 600$ towing and parking fine-Mulholland was frustrated, but he decided not to be angry with the person he would work with to retrieve his car. Instead of venting his feelings, Mulholland wrote a humorous poem about the situation and read it to the worker he met at the tow yard. The worker liked the poem, and a possible ugly confrontation never took place.

The book of Proverbs teaches, “It is to one’s honor to avoid strife” (Proverbs 20:3). Strife is that friction that either simmers under the surface or explodes in the open between people who disagree about something.

God has given us the resources to live peacefully with other people. His word assures us that it’s possible to feel anger without letting it boil over into rage(Eph. 4:26). His spirit enables us to override the sparks of fury that prompts us to do and say things to strike out at people who upsets us. And God has given us His example to follow when we feel provoked(I Peter 2:23). He is compassionate, gracious, and slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness(PS. 86:15) – Jennifer Benson ( Inspired from Our Daily Bread ).

Dear God, Please help me to manage my anger in a way that does not lead me into sin. Give me self control through the power of your holy spirit.

SWEET COMPANY

The elderly woman in the nursing home didn’t speak to anyone or request anything. It seemed she merely existed, rocking in her creaky old chair. She didn’t have many visitors, so one young nurse would often go into her room on her breaks. Without asking the woman questions to try to get her to talk, she simply pulled up another chair and rocked with her. After several months, the elderly woman said to her, “Thank you for rocking with me.” She was grateful for the companionship.

Before Jesus went back to heaven, Jesus promised to send a constant companion to his disciples. He told them He would not leave them alone but would send the Holy Spirit to be in them. That promise is still true for believers in Jesus today. Jesus said that the triune God makes His “home” in us.

The Lord is our close and faithful companion throughout our entire life. He will guide us in our deepest struggles, forgive our sin, hear each silent prayer, and shoulder the burdens we cannot bear.

We can enjoy his sweet company today – Our Daily Bread

HOW DOES AUTO-SUGGESTIONS TUNES OUR MIND?

What is auto-suggestion? An auto-suggestion is a statement made in the present tense, of the kind of person you want to be. Auto-suggestions are like writing a commercial about yourself, for yourself. They influence both your conscious and subconscious mind that, in turn, influence attitude and behaviour. Auto-suggestions are a way to program your subconscious mind. They can either positive or negative.

Examples of negative auto-suggestions are: I’m tired, I’m not an athlete, I have a poor memory, I’m not smart, I have a poor memory, I’m a failure. etc

When you give yourself a negative auto-suggestion, your subconscious mind believes it and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and starts reflecting in your behaviour. For example, when a person who gives himself the auto-suggestion, “I have a poor memory,” is introduced to a new person, he will not make the effort to remember the name because he tells himself, “I have a poor memory, so there’s no point in even trying to remember.” Of course, he won’t remember the person’s name the next time they meet, and will again tell himself, “I have a poor memory.” It’s a never-ending cycle-a self fulfilling prophecy.

Auto-suggestions are a process of repetition. If you repeat a statement often enough, it sinks into your subconscious mind. For example, if you tell yourself, “I am relaxed. I am cool, calm and collected,” you will start responding to situations in a cool, calm and collected manner.

Make your auto-suggestions in the present tense. Why? Because our mind cannot tell the difference between a real experience and an imagined one.

For example, parents are expecting their child to come home at 09:30 p.m. but the kid is not home and it is now 1 a.m. What is going through the parents’ mind? They are probably hoping everything’s okay. Suppose they , auto-suggest like “I hope the kid didn’t get into an accident.” What is happening to their blood pressure? It is going up! This is an imagined experience. The reality could be that the kid is having fun at a party, is irresponsible. Supposing the kid was actually coming home at 09:30 p.m. but got into an accident. What is happening to the parents blood pressure? It is still going up! In the first scenario the imagined experience was not true. In the second scenario it was true. The body’s response in both cases was identical. Our subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between a real and an imagined experience.

Auto-suggestions can be used to eliminate negative habits and develop positive ones. Success depends on our ability to concentrate and repeat the process.

It’s when the discomfort strikes that they realize a strong mind is the most powerful weapon of all.” ―Chrissie Wellington

Jesus – Looking for the Lonely

Many people feel terribly isolated from their fellow human beings, even though they have people all around them. They are lonely in a crowd.

Zacchaeus the tax collector must have felt the same way. His fellow citizens would have noting to do with him. They despised Jewish people who collected taxes for the Roman government and made themselves rich in the process. When a tax collector stood in a crowd, he would soon have sore shins from being kicked. Therfore, being short was only one of the reasons Zacchaeus climbed the sycamore tree. Sitting up there by himself, he probably felt estranged and alone. Imagine his excitement, then, when Jesus said, “Zacchaeus, make haste and come down, for today I must stay at your house.”

Jesus was always looking for lonely people. He touched untouchable lepers-men and women who were barred from contact with fellow humans. He talked with despised sinners, showing them they were important.

As His followers, we must be aware of lonely people. Maybe it’s a little boy who just can’t seem to make a friend. Or the woman whose husband makes her feel unwanted. There are mothers and children left by a husband and father to shift for themselves . They need a smile, a kind word, a loving deed, an invitation to dinner. Even the smallest kindness, done in Christlike love, can break the chain of loneliness.

JESUS – MORE THAN A HERO

In 2017 Star Wars fans around the world eagerly awaited the release of Episode 8, “The Last Jedi.” People analyzed the remarkable success of these films dating back to 1977. Frank Pallotta, media reporter for CNN Money, said that Star Wars connects with many who long for “a new hope and a force of good at a time when the world needs heroes.”

At the time of Jesus’s birth, the people of Israel were oppressed and longing for their long-promised Messiah. Many anticipated a hero to deliver them from Roman tyranny, but Jesus did not come as a political or military hero. Instead, He came as a baby to the town of Bethlehem. As a result, many missed who He was. The apostle John wrote, “He came to that which was his own, but his own did not receive him” (JOHN 1:11).

More than a hero, Jesus came as our Savior. He was born to bring God’s light into the darkness and to give His life so that everyone who receives Him could be forgiven and freed from the power of sin. John called Him “the one and only Son, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth”

“To all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God”. Indeed, Jesus is the one true hope the world needs. – Our Daily Bread

SELF ESTEEM

A beggar was sitting at a railway station with a bowl full of pencils. A young executive passed by and dropped a dollar into the bowl, but didn’t take any pencils. He then boarded the train. Just before the doors were about to close, the executive suddenly got down from the train and went back to the beggar. He grabbed a bunch of pencils, and said, “I will take some pencils. They are priced right. After all, you are a business person and so am I,” and he dashed back on to the train.

One year later, the executive attended a party. The beggar was also there, dressed in a suit and tie. The beggar recognized the executive, went up to him, and said, “You probably don’t recognize me, but I remember you.” He then narrated the incident that had happened 1 year before. The executive said, “Now that you remind me, I do recall that you were begging. What are you doing here in a suit and tie?” The beggar replied, “You probably don’t know what you did for me that day. Instead of giving me charity, you treated me with dignity. You grabbed the bunch of pencils and said, ‘They are priced right. After all, you are a business person and so am I.’ After you left, I thought to myself-what am i doing here? Why am I begging? I decided to do something constructive with my life. I packed my bag, started working and here I am. I just want to thank you for giving me back my dignity. That incident changed my life.”

What changed in the beggar’s life? It was his self esteem which went up and so did his performance. This is the magic of self-esteem in our lives. Simply, self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves. Our opinion of ourselves critically influences everything, from our performance at work, our relationships and our role as parents, to our accomplishments in life. Self-esteem is a major component in determining success or failure. High self esteem leads to a happy, gratifying and purposeful life.

Self esteem is a feeling that comes from the awareness of what is good and having done it.

There is a story about a farmer who planted pumpkins on his land. For no reason, he put a small pumpkin, hanging by the vine, into a glass jar. At harvest time, he saw that the pumpkin had grown, equivalent only to the shape and size of the jar. Just as the pumpkin could not grow beyond the boundaries restricting it, you cannot perform beyond the boundaries of your self-concept, whatever those boundaries may be.

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” “Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it. ” “A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”

HOW DO WE DEFINE SUCCESS?

What makes a person successful? How do we recognise success? To some people, success might mean wealth. To others, it is recognition, good health, a good family, happiness, satisfaction, and peace of mind. What this really tells us is that success is subjective. Success means different things to different people. The definition that i feel best summarizes “success” is:

Success is the progressive realization of a worthy goal. – Earl Nightingale

Let’s look at these definitions carefully. “Progressive” means that success is a journey, not a destination. We never arrive. After we reach one goal, we go on to the next and the next and so on. “Realization” means it is an experience. Outside forces cannot make me feel successful. I have to feel it within myself. It is internal not external. That is why what often appears as success externally may be total hollowness within. “Worthiness” refers to our value system without which goals can be unworthy. Which way are we heading? Towards positive or negative goals? Worthiness determines the quality of the journey. That is what gives meaning and fulfillment. Goals are important because they give us a sense of direction. Success without fulfillment is empty.

We don’t need to improve 1000% in any one area. All you need is to improve 1% in 1000 different areas, which is a lot easier. That is the winning edge!

Existence alone is not success! It is a lot more!

Do more than exist – live. Do more than touch – feel. Do more than look – observe. Do more than read – absorb. Do more than hear – listen. – John H. Rhoades

APPRECIATED IN THE AFTERLIFE

When you die, you are put on a pedestal. The terrible faults you possess while you’re alive are transformed into wonderful qualities as soon as you’ve gone.

BEFORE: He has a really nasty disposition, He flies into a rage at the drop of a hat, he’s unbearable. He is such a dominating and short-tempered person. AFTER: He was such a different character, He was certainly never one to let people take advantage of him.

BEFORE: He eats too much, he drinks too much. He’s got high cholesterol and damaged liver. He is wasting his precious life, AFTER: He was a bon viveur, an epicurean who knew how to enjoy life’s simple pleasures.

BEFORE: I’ve never seen such a nosy blabbermouth of a woman, she’s the ultimate gossip queen. AFTER: She had an unfailing interest in other people and a permanent need to communicate with them.

BEFORE: She spends all her time at the beauty parlour, her make-up is a real paint job, and she blows all her money on clothes. AFTER: She was always perfectly turned-out and elegant, with a completely individual sense of style.

BEFORE: I’ve never seen such a miser, he won’t even give you the time of day. AFTER: He had a very rare type of generosity, in fact he made all his occasions very precious.

BEFORE: He complains about feeling lonely but he’s fallen out with everyone, nobody can stand him anymore. AFTER: He was very selective about his friends. His very high standards rendered him a happy loner.

BEFORE: To be honest, I won’t miss him very much. AFTER: You will remain forever in our hearts.

We got to know that it is our responsibility to make the world a better place , Ignore Negativity.

THE POWER OF PERSISTENCE

It is easy to succeed today. If you want to get ahead in life, go the extra mile. There is no competition on the extra mile. Are you willing to do a little more than you get paid for?

Most people don’t want to do what they get paid for and a second category of people want only to do what they can get by with. Hard working people are in demand everywhere regardless of age, experience or academic qualifications. When we give or do more than what we get paid for, we eliminate our competition. In fact, we become the competition. This attitude is much more important than intelligence or a degree.

Fritz Kreisler, the great violinist, was once asked, “How do you play so well? Are you lucky?” He replied, “it is practice. If i don’t practice for a month, the audience can tell the difference. If i don’t practice for a week, my wife can tell the difference. If i don’t practice for a day, I can tell the difference.”

Persistence results from commitment and leads to determination. There is pleasure in endurance. Athletes put in years of practice for a few seconds or minutes of performance.

Your hardest times often lead to the greatest moments of your life. Keep going. Tough situations build strong people in the end.”
― Roy T. Bennett

TURN SCARS INTO STARS

THE WILMA RUDOLPH STORY

Wilma Glodean Rudolph (June 23, 1940 – November 12, 1994) was born into a poor home in Tennessee. At age four, she had double pneumonia with scarlet fever, a deadly combination which left her paralyzed with polio. She had to wear a brace and the doctor said she would never put her foot on the earth. But her mother encouraged her; she told Wilma that with God-given ability, persistence and faith she could do anything she wanted. Wilma said, “I want to be the fastest woman on the track on this earth.” At the age of nine, against the advice of the doctors, she removed the brace and took the first step the doctors had said she never would. At the age of 13, she entered her first race and came way, way last. And then she entered her second, and third and fourth and came way, way last until a day came when she came first. At the age of 15 she went to Tennessee State University where she met a coach by the name of Ed Temple. She told him, “I want to be the fastest woman on the track on this earth.” Ed Temple said, “With your spirit nobody can stop you and besides, I will help you.”

The day came when she was at the Olympics and at the Olympics you are matched with the best of the best. Wilma was matched against a woman named Jutta Heine who had never seen a defeat. The first event was the 100-meter race. Wilma beat Jutta Heine and won her first gold medal. The second event was the 200-meter race and Wilma beat Jutta a second time and won her second gold medal. The third event was the 400-meter relay and she was racing against Jutta Heine one more time. In the relay, the fastest person always runs the last lap and they both anchored their teams. The first three people ran and changed the baton easily. When it came to Wilma’s turn, she dropped the Baton. But Wilma saw Jutta shoot up at the other end; she picked the baton, ran like a machine, beat Jutta a third time and won her third gold medal. It became history: That a paralytic woman became the fastest woman on this earth at the 1960 Olympics.

What a lesson to be learnt from Wilma. It teaches us that successful people do it in spite of, not in absence of, problems. When we hear or read stories of people who have turned adversity into opportunity, doesn’t it motivate us? If we regularly read biographies and autobiographies of such people, won’t we stay motivated?

Some of the best music was composed by Beethoven. What was his handicap? He was deaf. Some of the best poetry written on nature was written by Milton. What was his handicap? He was blind. One of the greatest world leaders was US President Franklin D. Roosevelt. What was his handicap? He served from a wheelchair.

Read the life histories of people who have turned a negative into a positive. They refuse to let disappointment and failures pull them down.