Wayne Dyer , The Author of Your Sacred Self, once asked Abraham Maslow, “What do you mean by when you say self-actualization?” He said, “There are just two things to remember: one is to learn to become independent of the good opinion of other people, and the second is to master the art of being detached from the fruits of your labours.”
For example, you may experience some stress in your Job, or some problems in your life, which you don’t have any idea about. But you can learn how to remove yourself from the stress or problem and see that it’s just your body going through it.
When you become the observer, you detach yourself from the outcome. You get your ego and everything in the material world out of the picture, and you allow the highest part of you to observe the circumstance. You remove all that inner disturbance, anguish, fear and stress, and you then replace it with the calmness of a detached observer. The minute you sense that calmness, the solution is at hand. You’re not operating from adrenaline or fear or confusion.
When you face a crisis or deadline from the perspective that you only have so much time and “have to hurry,” you become one more person who brings stress and anxiety to the problem. It’s in the taming of the ego that you find the sacred in your life. You find greater strength when you can stop being so focused on you and your bottom line and start reaching out to others.
On this process , you realise that the highest stage in this journey is the stage of the Spirit. This is when you finally recognise that you are not an athlete, a warrior, or a soldier, that you are in this world, but not of this world. You recognise that you are not a human being having a spiritual experience, but you are a spiritual being having a human experience. In a sense, this life is all very temporary; this life is like a garage where we park our souls for a time, but our inner spirits are not so confined. The mystery of that is what we call unconditional love. When you are able to live this unconditional love you will have achieved this final state.
It can be difficult to understand that life is what happens while you are making other plans. Each and every instant of your life takes place in the present moment. Using your present moments to chase after future moments is an ego-based activity.
Your ego wants you to feel incomplete so that it can control your life. Your false self would keep you in perpetual motion chasing after more and more until your final breath, but Your higher self does not want you to be lazy or without purpose but to realise the power in knowing that this moment is your entire life. When you stop focusing on past or future moments, you release the stress and tension that accompany the striving lifestyle. With that release, you become more productive and peaceful than you are when you look behind or ahead of yourself and don’t allow your mind to rest in the still center or the present moment.
When you allow yourself to be still, you will understand the uselessness of constant striving and chasing after more.