THE VALUE OF LOVE
When a husband and wife understand and value each other’s purposes, they can have a rewarding relationship.
Don’t expect one person to do all the cooking, washing, or cleaning. If you don’t expect your spouse to do those things, then when he or she doesn’t do them, how can you be disappointed? When your spouse chooses to bless you by doing something unexpected, you’ll be more inclined to be thankful and appreciative.
A role within a marriage should be a temporary responsibility based on the ability of the one who is able to respond to the need at that given moment. Responsibility is determined by availability and capability.
If you see water on the floor, don’t just stand there and think, “Well that’s my wife’s job. She does the mopping.” No, you saw it, so you respond. If you have the ability to respond, then it’s your responsibility.
THE VALUE OF SEX
We know that sex is a temporary action and is subject to constant change. Since it is always changing, you can’t trust it. If you can’t put your trust in it, you know you’re in trouble when you try to build your relationship upon it.
Sex does not produce commitment. If you don’t believe me, ask a prostitute. Sex is a result of commitment in marriage. If your sexual relationship alone doesn’t make your marriage, then it can’t break it either.
When you say something to your spouse, you have to remember that your spouse may hear his or her interpretation of what you said based upon his or her personal history, and this may be quite different from what you actually meant. Your wife is supposed to be even better and sweeter to you as you both get older. Grow old gracefully together.
Your wife wants to hear, “I love you. You’re beautiful. You’re so precious to me.” Your husband doesn’t need to hear anything; just rub his head and touch his neck when he’s driving, and he’s in heaven. So, talk to your wife, or give your husband physical affection.
Your wedding ring represents to the whole world that no matter where you go by yourself, you belong to and are committed to another and are not looking for anybody else. Never leave home without wearing it.
There are things your husband can do that you cannot do, or there are things your wife can do that you cannot do. You should not try to compete with each other, but complete each other. Don’t compete—but complete.
INSPIRED FROM : KEYS OF MARRIAGE – DR. MYLES MUROE